About Me

Hello, and welcome to Flying Fear.

Many people are scared of flying and there can be many different triggers. Whether it’s claustrophobia, a fear of heights, or the feeling of not being in control that prevents you from enjoying your flight, I am here to try and help you overcome your fear.

So, what makes me so qualified?

Strictly speaking I’m not. What I mean by that is that I’m not a psychologist, or therapist. I am a flight attendant.

I deal with passengers with a fear of flying almost daily. My aim is to ensure a nervous flyer relaxes enough to enjoy the flight. Whether it’s explaining any noises, or turbulence, or simply talking to the passenger to focus their mind on something other than the fact they are on an aircraft.

As a flight attendant, I have an extensive knowledge of all things related to flying. Much more so than the majority of passengers think.

The majority of passengers underestimate the knowledge of the cabin crew. We have ALL passed extensive training in safety & emergency procedures, first aid (YES we ARE all first aid trained!), and much more. As a passenger with a fear of flying, please do not make the same mistake.

Further to this initial training, we are also tested daily before a flight to ensure we have an acceptable level of knowledge. If we get any questions wrong during this pre-flight briefing we are immediately taken off the flight and replaced with someone else.

We ALSO have to attend refresher training – and pass the relevant exams – annually.

I am not telling you all this to try and gain some respect for the job I do. Truth be told, the majority of passengers will never respect the hard – and extremely important – work that we do.

The reason I’m sharing this with you, is to give you the confidence to TELL THE CABIN CREW ON-BOARD THAT YOU HAVE A FEAR OF FLYING!

Do not sit and suffer in silence. We cannot help you unless you speak to us – This is ESPECIALLY important if travelling alone. The crew will do everything within their power to help you. I say again (and it won’t be the last time), please tell us if you have a flying fear.

So, here at FlyingFear.net I will do everything I can to help you. Just as I do every day, I will go above and beyond the call of duty to ensure you have a safe and comfortable flight.

Regards,

Kevin
Flight Attendant

Comments

  1. Mike says

    The work you are doing here is fantastic and so appreciated.

    I have flown before and am due to fly again in February. I am obviously not so scared that I refuse to get on a plane, but I hate/dread/fear the take off and landing (which I guess are essential parts of most flights!

    I guess the problem I have is I think too much. What if this, what if that. I remember my last flight from Barcelona to the UK. It was a new airbus (not sure what type) but the engine made a strange ‘whine’ that I havent heard before. It terrified me, but my fear eased a little (and only a little) when I saw others just chatting and paying no attention to what I thought was a strange noise. That was my worst flight and only for that reason!

    Anyway, thanks for all the effort you are putting into the site. Keep up the fantastic work.

    Mike

    • Dave says

      Hi Mike,

      It’s a relief to see that it isn’t just me that suffers in this way.
      You’re symptoms sound very similar to mine, along with very sweaty palms lol.
      Also I flew from Malaga to Uk last night, and I still feel a bit floaty light, seems to happen to me everytime I fly.
      Anyway, thanks again for posting Mike it’s much appreciated.

      Dave.

  2. Terri says

    Hi Kevin,

    I am a claustraphobic flyer what has mostly conquered it. I haven’t flown for many months and about to head out next week in a rain storm heading to Las Vegas. Your articles on flying in rain and wind were very assuring. Thank you, I will be able to sleep tonight.

    Also, letting me know I most definately should tell the flight crew that I am a fearful flyer. One of my largest fears is being stuck in the airplane sitting on the tarmac like the horror stories we have all heard. 5 minutes over landing I begin to panic.

    Please keep up the excellent articles! I hope to fly on your plane one day!
    Many thanks,
    Terri

  3. Kirsty says

    Just wanted to say a massive thankyou for this website, such a good idea! I have flown many times without fear but have recently developed a strong fear (for no good reason) which was making me dread things like holidays, which should be looked forward to. After reading through your website, I feel more relaxed about the prospect of flying and feel more in control for knowing more about the experience. Thankyou so much, such a thoughtful idea.

  4. Leah says

    Thank you so much for this site!!! There are so many fear of flying sites out there that just scare you more. I am preparing to conquer my fear of flying this coming saturday on a flight from florida to arizona. I’m extremely nervous and trying to not allow myself to think about it. I havent flown in 10 years because of this fear.

  5. Marta says

    Kevin,

    Thank you so much for the effort that you put in this website, it really helps me to better understand what goes on inside a plane during a flight, which is essential in order to overcome the fear of flying. Thank you again.

    Marta from Barcelona, Spain

  6. Tanya says

    Just wanted to thank you. Got off a bit of a scary flight (very small plane) and have to get back on another flight very soon. Got really freaked out about the weather/turbulence and searched the Internet. Your website has been such a help and I feel much better already. Real heartfelt thank you.

  7. Laurie Pelayo says

    Kevin,

    Thank you for this site, I am a nervous flyer and I try really hard to keep it all together in the air. Your website is such a blessing for those of us who dislike turbulence. I will be flying in the rain Tuesday to Salt Lake and your explanation of all conditions worrysome is a great asset. I have you bookmarked for future reference!

    Laurie

  8. tanya says

    Thank you for this great site! I just discovered it tonight and have been reading for hours. I am a nervous flyer ( I even have a prescription!). I have only experienced what I would consider to be bad turbulence once when flying home from Venezuela. The plane dropped so hard, of course it was right after serving breakfast. Needless to say, dry cleaning vouchers were handed out! Ever since then I have been so nervous even in the slightest turbulence. I like how you explain turbulence and how planes are able to take off and stay in the air. I have let my fear of flying hold me back for years, but I am trying to overcome it because I want to travel more. Your site is really helping. Thank you :-)

  9. Marion says

    As ex cabin staff, just wanted to say what a brilliant site this is. Really rotten for people that are so scared – remember many times they were OK after just talking to us!

  10. Ana Martinez says

    Great site. I have a horrible fear of flying. Starting in my teens when I was a passenger on a plane and we experienced some turbulence. Plane dropped suddenly (all plates when up)… and that was it. I have been a nervous wreck ever since. I usually either have several drinks or get some sort of valium. Neither seem to work totally!

    I know its a stupid Fear but I just can’t help it. Once the turbulence starts, my heart races, im looking back and forth, get dizzy… start praying.!!

    Thanks for your site!

  11. Charlotte says

    I am going on my first ever long haul flight tomorrow! I have flown pretty much every year but never on a flight that has lasted longer than 4 hours. I do always dread the journey, get panic attacks and cry so I was more than a little nervous about the 12 hour flight tomorrow – after reading through this site I feel so much more at ease!

    My fear developed when I was about 16 years old, I don’t know how or where from. I think it may of been that just generally growing up and starting to think and look out for myself made me begin to question people who told me I was safe… and of course exposure to more media! Films, internet, news – the lot!

    Thankyou so much for creating this site! I’m sort’ve looking forward to braving it tomorrow now :) x

  12. Jessica says

    Kevin
    THANK YOU!!!! Thank you for creating and maintaining this website. I have a terrible fear of flying that absolutely gets in the way of me living my life. i used to find every excuse possible to avoid flying but I am now at a point in my life where I either need to pass up major opportunities or get over it.I also married a man whose family lives in the south of France so not flying is no longer an option.
    Finding this site is already calming me down. I am flying to Florida tomorrow and have been obsessively checking the weather. Seeing your articles on flying in bad weather was a Godsend. I know I will be on this website for years to come!
    I cannot thank you enough-
    Jessica

  13. linds says

    Kevin,

    Thank you for your articles. I had a terrible experience on a flight 4 years ago and have not been on a plane since. I am going to be taking a trip from Boston to Florida in Novemeber and am trying to read everything I can. Your website is definitely helping but anything else you could offer would be great!

    Thanks

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