A Flying Fear reader wrote this short story and emailed it to me to share with other readers;
A teenage girl of about 15, Kirsten, was travelling to her hometown in Sweden from her boarding school in America to see her family. She had always felt slightly nervous of planes, but she had agreed to go on the trip only because the prospect of not seeing her family this summer seemed worse than any of the dangers air travel could pose.
As she waited at the departure gate, she looked around to see many a face a picture of anxiety, much like her own. For although only a small proportion admit it, the majority of the population feel somewhat uncomfortable in the air.
One young woman, however, stood out. She was about the same age as the girl herself, and was wearing a brightly coloured shirt, skinny jeans and an oversized pair of old-school headphones, with her hair hanging limply, unstyled. Her aura of utter cheerfulness startled the Swedish girl – she was the only one in the room who seemed completely at ease. As mothers looked anxiously to check their children were still by their sides, and businessmen peered at their watches to keep their minds from the situation ahead, this teenager banged her head enthusiastically to the raucous music that could be heard coming from her iPod.
The passengers boarded the plane, and Kirsten found her seat, which was in the middle. The seat next to hers was empty for now, so she sat down and got out her book, beginning to read and quickly becoming engrossed in the story. To her amazement, when she looked up at the sound of the pilot’s first announcement, the cheerful girl she had seen at the departure gate was sitting beside her, still seemingly lost in her own world. Eventually, the Swedish girl was too curious – she just had to consult this seemingly angst less individual:
“You might find this a weird question, but how can you be so calm?” She asked
Her neighbour took off her headphones, having seen Kirsten’s mouth moving, and answered:
“Calm? What do you mean?”
“Well, calm, about flying. Everyone else feels at least a little nervous, you can tell by their faces. But you, you look like you’re really enjoying yourself!”
The girl laughed, a hearty, cheerful laugh:
“Oh, I see what you mean! Well, I guess I’m just not a pessimist!”
“But, doesn’t the thought even occur to you at all that you might not ever get off at the other end?”
“What? Now why would that occur to anybody?! Seriously, this is just the work of the imagination that makes people think like that. I mean, did you ever fly when you were a kid?”
“I did a few times, too. And back then, plane crashes and the like – they didn’t mean anything – I hadn’t seen them on the news, or heard about them, so I was unaware. I remember jumping up and down and laughing through the turbulence, and running up and down the aisles, even when things got really bumpy. I wasn’t holding onto my seat like the rest of the plane.”
“Yeah, but how can you still trick yourself into being oblivious now? I mean, even with the best will in the world you can’t help imagining the risk when you’re about to take off, or when you’re in turbulence, right?”
She laughed again.
“Nah, I never do. I mean, if we thought about the risk in everything, we’d drive ourselves crazy! Even when we eat there’s the risk we’d choke; when we take a shower there’s the risk we’d slip and hit our heads on the tap and knock ourselves out, then drown from the water.”
“True, but if you’re careful you can prevent all that. But on a plane, it’s like your life’s literally in someone else’s hands.”
“It also is when you get in a taxi.”
“Oh yeah, I guess.”
“Or on a bus, or on a train, or when you get an operation in hospital.”
“I’d be nervous about an operation too!”
“Haha, yeah but my point is, there’re risks in everyday life, a lot more than most people ever even think about. But if you worry about them all the time, then if nothing happens, which is by far the most likely, you’ve still lost your life – you haven’t lived it happily, that is. But hey, even if we die on this plane, in the next hour, I’ll have lived a happy life, and I think that’s better than getting off the other end having spent seven hours almost dying of fright. Am I right?”
To that, the Swedish girl had no retaliation. She just smiled and got back to her book – her favourite ever – not even bothering to watch the safety video which she generally memorised before they took off.
~ Lauren, Flying Fear reader
An inspirational story. I’m sure all of you would love to feel the way the girl does, and you can. As a fearful flyer it is so easy to focus on the 1 in 5million flights that go wrong. Your emotional response is; that 1 flight could be mine. But, why do you never feel this when you get in a car, or on a train, or boat?
I hope this story provides you with the inspiration to cure your fear of flying.
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